A Simple Framework to Boost Your Confidence in Any Room

I learned a concept recently that sounds like common sense, but it profoundly altered how I approach and handle situations:

Here’s a bit of wisdom: The distinction between a real and an imagined problem is insignificant when you believe it's real.

Sounds too simplistic? Let me share how it worked its magic on me this week.

This week, I had a couple of meetings that, in retrospect, I turned into an immense mental obstacle -one with a serial entrepreneur to discuss a shared issue, and another with someone I consider a mentor.

I found myself nervous and over-apologizing, spiraling down the whirlwind of self-doubt in situations where I usually thrive.

I wondered: Why was I shrinking, creating non-existent problems, and projecting an image of a nervous wreck in conversations that were meant to be just casual exchanges of ideas?

The answer came shortly before my meeting with the person I look up to as a mentor. With him, I didn't feel small or inadequate, and the solution was as simple as three questions shared by my friend Julia Pappas:

• What expectations do you think they have?

• What are you looking to gain from the conversation?

• What concrete evidence supports those expectations?

When I applied this framework, the imaginary problems started to lose their grip. Try these questions next time you find yourself getting anxious over a meeting.

Remember, the only person who can make you feel small is yourself.

Question of the week: Who do you become when you feel intimidated? What thoughts flood your mind?

Share your stories of self-discovery, the times you overcame your insecurities, or how this simple framework worked for you

We're in this together, navigating the maze of entrepreneurship, one day at a time and your experiences might just be the inspiration someone else needs.

Can't wait to hear your stories.

What I’m Testing and Doing This Week:

• Work on my guide's newsletter lead magnet (still)

• 30 Day’s to a product. I tweeted about it here.

• Continue to implement chapter 1 of 'Traffic Secrets' by Russell Brunson